How to Adult Vol. 4: How to Relationship
- Christopher Te
- Jul 19, 2016
- 3 min read
There are many different ways people view relationships, it all depends on what you are looking for. Some people look for short term and others long, but what a lot of people get caught up in is trying to make a relationship perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. So how do you handle a relationship? Well the most important thing that helps a relationship flow and last is communication. It may seem easy, but many people struggle with being able to do so on a consistent basis. Of course like mentioned earlier, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship so what we will talk about is how to make your relationship work out. To keep things short, we’ll focus more on long term relationships, and if you want advice for long distance relationships feel free to contact me as well.
You meet a girl/boy and you’re interested in them and the feelings are mutual, what do you do now? Well there are many things you can do, if you know for sure that you both have mutual feelings for each other you can ask them out on a date! Whether you are a boy or a girl it doesn’t matter who asks who. You can also just be friends at first, there is no need to rush a relationship. If you are going to ask them to be your significant other, it doesn’t have to be something extravagant, although if you want you are more than welcome to! But what matters is making it sentimental and meaningful. There is no correct tips or advice for relationships, they are all different and work differently, it is up to you on how to find the way you two work together just right.
Things to keep in mind throughout your relationship. No one is perfect, there will be times where they slip up, or make mistakes or make you angry. Talk to them, work it out, compromise, most of the time it is just miscommunication. You should always be able to talk with your significant other about things that bother you in order to have a healthy relationship and you should not feel guilty about bringing things up that have made you feel uncomfortable. Be understanding of your significant other, there are a lot of things that happen to us throughout the course of life and it’s only understandable that there will be days where neither one of you are happy and that’s completely okay. It is okay to not be okay, but what is not okay is to take out your anger on each other. Never blame your significant other or accuse them of things even if it is their fault it will only create a more toxic relationship between the two of you. Instead of blaming them, find a way to solve the problem that is presented together. There will be ups in the relationship and that’s what everyone wants all the time, all the good times. But you have to be able to go through the bad times. The nights where you both break down crying, where you have your fights, those are the most important points in your relationship. Finding the ability despite all odds to hold onto each other and get through it.
Nothing worth it is easily attained. Another thing is do not compare your past relationships to your current, it is good to learn from the past but your current significant other and your past are two different people, treat them that way. One last thing, regardless if you end up staying together for the rest of your lives or going separate ways, remember the good times, cherish the great things and learn from your relationship. Chances are you’ll go through a couple relationships before you find “The One” and that is completely okay, relationships help you grow, help you learn how to care for others, and to be selfless. Most importantly, love yourself.
Christopher Te is currently a 3rd year majoring in Psychology at California State University, Fullerton. He is a Behavioral Interventionist at Behavioral Health Works, Inc. as well as the 2016 - 2017 Interrelations Chair at CSUF Circle K.
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